Going from having nothing up your ass ever to suddenly a whole penis can be jarring in many ways. The rumors are true: Anal does have the possibility of getting messy. If you want extra peace of mind, make sure the surface you and your partner engage on is comfortable and washable. Sure, the idea of a numbing cream that protects you from feeling any potential pain during anal is nice, but the risk for injury down the line is not worth it. Take any pressure to perform off yourself by trying penetrative anal sex alone first. Get a toy and a condom for easier cleanup and go at your own pace. Either way is a hundred percent fine, and if he keeps pressuring you when you have made it clear that it is not on the table, tell him to suck it.
Anal Sex Podcast
1. Relax your mind...and body
This is the fifth in a multi-part series from After Hours about anal play. You can see the other posts in the series as they come out here. Anal sex is pretty polarizing. No one is going to force you to try anal, but there are a few compelling reasons to give it a go:. Just like with any other type of sex, you have to take precautions to keep yourself safe during anal. You can transmit STIs through anal sex. In fact, transmission rates are higher for anal sex than for most other sexual activities, since anal tissues are sensitive and susceptible to microtears. The good news is that pregnancy is clearly not a concern. The hygiene factor is one of the biggest reasons people tend to shy away from anal sex. But the key word here is traces.
Preparing For Anal Sex
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More young women than ever—45 percent—are trying anal, according to the latest research from the Kinsey Institute. If you're considering having anal sex for the first time, you're probably wondering how to prepare, relax, and enjoy the intimate moment with your partner. We called in the experts: Rachel Needle , Psy. The last thing you want to be before attempting anal is tense. If this is your first time trying anal sex, spend some time relaxing—take a hot bath, ask your partner to give you a sensual massage, heck, you can even meditate. You can also focus on specifically relaxing your anal muscles. To see what that feels like, tighten your butt muscles—kind of like a kegel for the other end—and then release. As with all types of sexual activity , anal sex is something that should be discussed beforehand," says Needle. Trust me, this is one area in which you do NOT want any surprises.