If the question "Do you like anal sex? Over the past decade, anal sex —or at least, talking about anal sex—has become significantly less taboo, perhaps because butts have taken on an entirely new status thanks, Kardashians or because society has become more sex-positive overall yay! But guess what?
2. No, Really: Prepare
Despite increasing pop culture coverage, anal sex is still heavily stigmatized. While this might be true for some women, assuming it goes for all women is completely unfair. Woman A: It honestly does hurt, be prepared, and use lots of lube if you want an easier time. Woman B: At times, it can be uncomfortable, but I don't recall that it ever really hurt. I've had partners who are very attentive and listen to my needs, so I've never experienced pain. There are times, however, when a larger penis may cause cramping.
Backdoor entry is a deal-breaker for many women — a no-way, no-how, entirely off-limits scenario. Still, more than a third of women For some women, like me, anal sex can be a mind-blowing addition to the bedroom. Anal sex has always been a welcome precursor to vaginal penetration and other below-the-belt play. The key, for me, is to have a patient partner — one whom I trust. Oh, and plenty of lube. For me to engage in anal sex, I need to be fully relaxed, lubed, and ready. Anne Hodder , ACS, a multi-certified sex and relationships educator, says a successful anal experience is most often the result of communication, relaxation, preparation, lubrication, and at least initially gentle stimulation.
Going from having nothing up your ass ever to suddenly a whole penis can be jarring in many ways. The rumors are true: Anal does have the possibility of getting messy. If you want extra peace of mind, make sure the surface you and your partner engage on is comfortable and washable. Sure, the idea of a numbing cream that protects you from feeling any potential pain during anal is nice, but the risk for injury down the line is not worth it. Take any pressure to perform off yourself by trying penetrative anal sex alone first. Get a toy and a condom for easier cleanup and go at your own pace. Either way is a hundred percent fine, and if he keeps pressuring you when you have made it clear that it is not on the table, tell him to suck it. Before embarking on the full monte of penetrative anal sex, you can—and should!